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Happy Friday Babes! Welcome to Part 2 of 3 of my first ever blog series. Thank you all so much for the love and support on yesterday’s post. In case you missed it, here it is: Focusing on Impact Over Income. You have all made me feel brave enough to be vulnerable and share some of my own insecurities, as you will learn from the Part 1 blog of this series!
In case you’re newer to following me, let me introduce my family above! My husband’s name is Grant. Yes, I scheduled this selfie and yes, I make him actively participate in my social media. Back when I first started blogging, he didn’t really understand and wasn’t very eager to do so. Now that he sees the business opportunities and extra income it makes our family, he is ready for action with a smile on his face LOL. But really, I know that my blog covers many facets of my lifestyle – my marriage, our bulldogs, my fashion, fitness, beauty, advice/thoughts, and all sorts of travel and life in between – but I love having my husband participate. I always try to keep him in my top 9 of my instagram grid so that nobody ever has to scroll to see that I’m married. I started this lifestyle blog 2 months after we got married, so documenting and showcasing married life is so important to me. Marriage (even with all the struggles it can create) has been the best season of my life thus far. I love sharing my hopes and dreams with Grant, and it’s so much easier to embrace this blog and social media having him with me. He has to help me take photos, videos, proof read, and do many other tasks. I’m very lucky that he supports me sharing our life with all of you! I even think he likes being in front of the camera sometimes, too!
Bucky the Bulldog is our almost 13 year old miniature English Bulldog. He belonged to Grant before I came in the picture. Grant got him during college and would take him along to all the sorority parties LOL. Before Grant and I started dating, Bucky had a horrible tendency of bolting out of the door and running really fast on any adventure he could take. I tell Grant he was out running around looking for his mom. Ever since I came into his life, Bucky will stand so obediently next to any door that is left open, and Grant’s anxiety has dropped immensely because of it. No more having to worry about Bucky running away! I didn’t meet Bucky until he was almost 8 years old, but I feel equally as close to him as Grant is to him. Bucky is charming, majestic and a little bit like Eeyore (from Winnie the Pooh) in his old age.
We also have a precious baby girl named Barbie Love. Her schedule was obviously too busy to join in on our family selfie. She was much too busy chasing her hot pink tennis ball around the house. She is literally beyond obsessed with her pink tennis balls that Grant ordered off Amazon for her. She will be 1 year old on September 1, and we got her the week before Halloween last year. It took Bucky 3 months to learn to like her. He almost bit her ear off the first week, and we really doubted if he would ever love her, but now we couldn’t imagine life without her. She has the most adorable underbite and her teeth stick up from the bottom LOL. Her separation anxiety from me is pretty ridiculous, but she is so much fun! Here is a photo in case you’ve never “met” her. Grant calls her his “angels” 🙂
She looks way bigger in this photo than she really is! Bucky is 40 pounds and she is 34!
Ok, now that the Friday Introduction is out of the way, let me get back to Part 2 of my first ever 3 part series blog!
Today is all about evolving, progressing and not fearing failure.
Evolution – what a beautiful thing! Yet, so many people are so scared of change! I honestly think older people struggle with change more than younger people do. Probably because our world has come to change faster and faster these past few years, therefor the younger age group is probably just more “used” to change. The only thing that stays the same in this world is that everything will always continue to change. I hate to just keep talking about my own personal life when the goal of this blog is to help others with their own, but sometimes sharing personal experience is much more effective.
For instance, when I started my first company 12 years ago, who would have ever thought that social media could ever be a full time job? Past that, who would have ever thought that being a social media “influencer” would ever be a full time job? I feel our world is changing faster and faster when it comes to the digital age as well as online career opportunities, so if you’re interested in joining on the creator side of things rather than the consumer-only side of things, I would say the future is looking bright for you! I continue to foresee retail stores becoming more and more a thing of the past and the digital opportunities continuing to open more and more. It’s still crazy for me to think that I own a fitness app, design a clothing label, influence for the boutique I opened years ago, and am connected to so many of you through this blog and my social media outlets all while working from home. If you would have told me that years ago this is where my life would evolve, I would have said you’re crazy! Now, I see more and more of our world continuing to evolve this way. If you’re wanting an opportunity to start a side hustle online but don’t know where to start, stay tuned because I have something coming your way in October!
“Those who do not move are the ones who never notice the chains that hold them back.”
Progressing. Here’s a topic where I’m pretty blunt and to-the-point. Some of you may not like my take on progression, but here goes. Every day we have a choice, and that choice is to either 1) make progress or 2) make excuses. It’s as plain and simple as that. I have so many women reach out to me asking me how I keep my motivation, what keeps me going, how do I keep showing up even when I’m not seeing the results I want? The answer is simple. I’m not going to get where I want to be by doubting, stopping, whining, complaining, or trying to figure out where to find motivation. ACTION! Take freaking action and repeat. Unfortunately many people who are reading this have grown up in the instant gratification world. You’ve got to toss that out the window. Building PowHer.fit wasn’t instant. Trying to grow and create my clothing Label isn’t instant. Cultivating the loving marriage Grant and I have wasn’t instant. None of the things I do in life that are worth having come easy or instantly. Even if I don’t SEE progress, I continue to work for it because I know one day it will all pay off. In my mind, if you’re only putting in the work so that you can SEE the progress, that’s the wrong state of mind to be working in.
Whenever I very first started working out to lose weight it took me almost 6 months to see noticeable results. Do you think me stopping was going to speed up the process? Nope. Still today, I choose to workout as a part of my lifestyle. There’s so much more to it than the physical results I see. It’s called discipline, commitment, sticking to a schedule, and leading by example. Now, if you don’t want to work out or go to the gym – that’s A ok. But there’s nothing that I can tell you that will make working out, eating healthy, and getting results any easier. You have to show up and stick with it even when you don’t want to. If you don’t have any motivation, then maybe you need to change your way of thinking. If you don’t have motivation, maybe you’re hanging around the wrong group of people, maybe you’re fighting some type of anxiety or depression that might need clinical help, maybe you need a plan of action (hello PowHer.fit), maybe you don’t even know what you really want (and this is ok, just stop being so hard on yourself!), or maybe you just need a big change in your life to put things into perspective. Again, I’m not here to upset anyone, but I’m pretty blunt when it comes to this topic. You show up to make progress or you skip out because of excuses – it’s as plain and simple as that. Figure out what you want, and then start showing up day in and day out to make it happen.
Remember, sometimes rest or re-direction also counts as progress! I think sometimes in today’s world young people can be so hard on themselves thinking they need to have everything figured out before 25! Everyone’s timing is different. It’s all about doing the best with what you’ve got at the current stage you’re in.
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.”
Now I don’t think that every person needs to workout to make progress in their life, but for me working out and all other avenues of progress go hand in hand. Working out provides me with mental clarity, physical strength, tons of endorphins, and much more energy to tackle more within a given day.
“Every positive change in your life begins with a clear, unequivocal decision that you are going to either do something or stop doing something. If nothing changes, nothing will change.”
And for the last topic – fearing failure. If you follow me on instagram, you know I talk about this fairly often these days. I am no longer fearsome of failure! That feels SO GOOD to say! However, regret scares the heebie jeebies out of me. My newest RC Label (that launches on Thur Sept 5) may or may not be as big of a success as I have planned, but I’ll never know if I never try. There are so many new things coming in my career (that you’ll all know about soon enough) that may not work out, but I can promise you none of them will EVER workout if I never even give them my effort! I always justify things by “when I’m 80 and looking back”. I would rather live a life full of “I gave it my all’s” rather than “I wonder what would’ve happened if I tried”.
I used to fear failure. I didn’t want to have my ego deflated, I didn’t want to look like a failure, my pride was in the way, and I didn’t want someone else to see or think for themselves that I was a failure. Now I know this life isn’t about what others think about me. I don’t mind swallowing my pride every once in a while – I mean at least it isn’t fattening. There are so many things I want to do and try in this life – so fearing failure had to be removed from my life. Now, the biggest thing I still do fear and probably always will fear is REGRET.
“The cost of not following your heart is spending the rest of your life wishing you had.”
That’s all for today ladies. I hope you enjoyed blog #2. Stay tuned for the final and last of this series to be written and shared soon! I hope everyone has a fabulous weekend!